Resilience

Daily Prompt 2/23/2016: Toot Your Horn

This feels like my first job interview seven years ago when my employer asked me about my greatest strength.

For me, the best trait I like most about myself is being resilient. I have been through a lot in life, yet I am able to rise up from the ashes anew and alive. I am a phoenix. I don’t let my problems ruin my life, rather I consider them as challenges that measure my inner strength. No matter how bad the storm is, like a bamboo, I would stand again after being bent badly by the strong winds.

I’m proud to be a one tough mama. I endured the long hours of painful enduced labor. I fought the post-operative pain brought about by c-section delivery. No matter how difficult the situation was, I chose to breastfeed my baby. I did not care about painful engorgement and sore nipples, all I thought of was my baby’s nutrition. Yes, I panicked on my first few days of unsuccessful breastfeeding because I notice I had little to no milk, but I persisted. Giving up was never an option. I did not allow stress to overpower my goal.

Resilience isn’t uncommon to Filipinos. In fact, we Filipinos are known to be one. Several times we were blown away by strong typhoons, yet we stood up. We recover. Personally, I am thankful to my parents for teaching us to be resilient. Growing up in the province was not as smooth as silk. My parents were not able to attain higher educational status, but they are able to send us to private school and finish college through our small family business. During college days, I helped in paying my tuition fees by working as part-time office secretary. I was on my final year in college when my father passed away after three years of battling the big C. Everything was grey back then, but I chose to be strong. I did not let depression ate me out. I managed to fake a smile during a play in our literature class. I continued to work and study until I finally earned my diploma.

I am always ready to face life’s challenges and crises. I believe on the power of positivity and resilience because,

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Philippians 4:13

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Can you keep a secret?

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Daily Prompt 2/17/2016: Evasive Action

What’s the most significant secret you’ve ever kept? Did the truth ever come out?

This prompt is a tricky one.

Secrets are meant to be kept. Unverified information that are being passed to other people from another source other than the subject is called a rumor. Discussing to other people a private matter entrusted to you? I call it insensitivity and betrayal. Personally, I respect privacy because I also expect one on the other hand. Secrets could die with me unless the person owning them would brought them to light. I would scream my lungs out of annoyance when someone spills my plan for a friend’s surprise birthday ambush, neither could I ever tolerate my best friend who would tell the whole campus that I got a crush on my high school seatmate. I live to this golden rule in life:

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If someone tells you a secret, it simply means that you are one of the few people he/she invested the precious word ‘trust’. That person believed and trusted you afar from anybody who are less entitled. Being told a secret is both a delight and a burden. It is an honor to be entrusted such a private stuff, and delicate in a way that if you betray that person and spill the secret, relationships could be damaged and marred.

On a personal experience, the most significant secret that has been shared to me has already been exposed, at least not from my lips, but straight from her own. I promised I won’t tell the universe and I’m keeping my words forever, so please don’t expect me to tell you the story. The secret had been known, my friend chose to set free and I’m proud of her for being so brave and all. It was her secret anyway, so that the prerogative was always hers. I believe I do not have the authority to divulge anything other than my own business. And in that matter, a private and sensitive one.

So there you go. I can keep a secret.

In another life.

Daily Prompt 2/21/2016:The Road Less Traveled

Pinpoint a moment in your past where you had to make a big decision. Write about that other alternate life that could have unfolded.

One upon a time, I almost moved from Davao to Cebu. That was a decision out of impulse. I jumped into a work opportunity based on my own guts without considering other people’s opinion especially my family and my former boyfriend, now my husband. I was younger then, a fresh college graduate. I thought I was mature enough to make my own decision. I was ready to venture into a new journey. My employment and relocation papers were all set except that I forgot one thing along the way – informing my family about my plans. On my mind, it was not a big deal for them. I wanted to surprise them about what I have achieved actually. Sure, they were really happy about my great news, but they did not agree the part about me leaving. There were series of talks. There were lots of things to consider. I never thought it would be that complicated. Things were complicated which I chose not to discuss them one by one anymore. To cut it short, that time I realized that making a decision should not be done overnight. It takes prayers and consultation with peer or family.

Now, what if I pursued the move? I wonder who would I become. If I relocated to Cebu, life could be a bit unfamiliar. I won’t have a baby as adorable as Raffy. Yes, all babies are blessings from above. So, well, yes, I may have a baby or two as charming as Raffy, but having Raffy and her Dad is a different story. My life would be different I think. In another life, I maybe single as of the moment. Uncommitted and carefree, attending parties every weekend because I don’t have a child to take care of. I don’t have muffin top, stretch marks, and added pounds brought about by pregnancy. I won’t be chasing an uber energetic toddler while trying to finish the laundry. I won’t be changing dirty diapers and bed covers filled with biscuit crumbs and chocolate stains. More so, I think I have a different career aside from being a working mom. I envisioned a slicker me in a six-inch pumps working my a** off to the corporate ladder. I guess I have different set of friends.

I maybe pursuing a different hobby. I discovered my love for crafting when I became a wife and a mother. I think I am travelling a lot cause it’s always been my dream to go to different places and visit scenic spots. I guess I’m making a lot more money than I’m earning now. I may not be in Cebu anymore by now because working overseas was also one of my options. I would have not married my first love.

At some point, I realized what a good life I have right now. I couldn’t think of a much better lifetime than this. Things are simple and far from extravagant but spending time with my family is beyond extraordinary. Being a mother is the best thing that ever happened to me. It’s my best achievement so far and nothing could top that off.

Dear Procrastination

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Daily Prompt 2/20/2016: Shape Up or Ship Out

Write a letter to the personality trait you like least, convincing it to shape up or ship out. Be as threatening, theatrical, or thoroughly charming as is necessary to get the job done.

Dear Procrastination,

We’ve been together for quite so long already. We crammed handful of projects and homeworks together during high school and college days. We love last-minute preparations not just on academic matters but even on petty things like what shoes to wear in senior’s prom. You think you perform better if you do things under pressure that is why you tend to delay tasks. You always have your crappy excuses over your delaying tactics. But you know what? Here’s the truth. You are just plain lazy, destructed, and unfocused. You entertain too much unnecessary activities to the point of desrupting the more important undertakings of your precious time. 

Another thing I’ve noticed of you is that you do not only manipulate tasks or work-related errands. You also influence on personal issues. By choosing to delay, you take no actions on what you think is a stressful situation. In this sense, you avoid confrontations. There are family relationship issues that need to be talked about stat, but you refuse to discuss with them because you are avoiding negativity among your circle. You chose to keep them within yourself, but in doing so, you only make things worse. You might not know it, let me point out that confrontations at the soonest time possible leads to peace and understanding. You need to take actions asap to sort things out. Avoidance is never a solution nor is delaying to take action. 

That is why, right at this moment, I am ordering you, Procrastination, to get out of my way and let me live productively. I don’t want to waste more valuable time with you. I think I have had enough of you. I want to be more mature and more responsible adult, so I’m getting rid of you. Having a relationship with you, do more harm than good. I have to live a life that values the importance of time. As my previous post said, “You Only Live Once”. 

PS: Please give way to Proactivity.

Sincerely,

Guilt-Stricken Self

 

YOLO

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Daily Prompt: Karma Chameleon

Reincarnation: do you believe in it?

My answer to this question is simply, No. I don’t believe in reincarnation because I only believe what the Bible tells us that we are a special creation of God, created on His own image, distinct and unique from other creatures- animals and angels alike. That we are created in material body but with immaterial soul and spirit. And according to the scriptures, that at death, while the human body decays and turns to dust, the spirit and soul continues to either the place of torments for those who rejects God, or to the place of paradise, in God’s holy presence, for those who believe and accept Him as Eternal Savior. Nowhere else, not on a certain reptile, an insect, or a dog, not even on a newborn baby.

For me, as a Christian, I do not believe that our soul and spirit after death, comes back in another form, as another person or animal in certain cases. I firmly believe that we are to live only once, and by that, we only have a single lifetime to live accordingly and be judged accordingly. As the Bible says in Hebrew 9:27 “just as people are destined to die once, and after that to face judgment” (NIV).

Therefore I say, in my own view, that we have to choose wisely on the kind of life we want to live today. There’s the road to eternal loneliness, and another direction is the road to eternal bliss – heaven. YOLO (You Only Live Once) does make sense, so make the most out of it. Do not be fooled into a perception that there’s another chance for cleansing in another lifetime. Why don’t we take the chance right now? Why don’t we live as if we die tomorrow and never live again?

Blogger Recognition Award

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I am a newbie blogger. I opened my WordPress blog last March 2015 but was not able to update it until just recently. As a newcomer to the blogosphere, I didn’t expect likers, commenters, or even followers. My goal is just to put into words my thoughts and opinions on anything I’d like to share with especially about parenthood with my 2 year old daughter.

Writing could be hard sometimes. There are instances that I couldn’t even think of a topic to write and my thoughts are everywhere. There are photos in my gallery that I’d like to share, but I couldn’t find the right words to begin with. But thank God I discovered dailypost from one of the blogs I follow. Through daily prompts, I am challenged to write random topics everyday. From these daily posts responses, I’ve learned various life lessons from different stories of real people. I began interacting with fellow bloggers too, and I couldn’t believe blogging could be this real fun. I am actively blogging for more than a week only, but the whole experience is overwhelming.

One of the sites that inspired me most is Write Them All by Ms. Ann Santos.  And I’d like to thank her for this Blogger Recognition Award. It is such an honor. I’m glad someone noticed and appreciated my writings.

Write Them All is truly an inspiration. I can feel the heart and sincerity of the author poured out in every words on her posts. There are always lessons implied on every story she shares.  By the way, she’s also a Filipina and I couldn’t be more proud. I am always looking forward to reading more amazing stuff on her blog.

You too can nominate bloggers for the Blogger Recognition Award by following below:

  • Give a ‘shout out’ to the blogger who nominated you  and include a link to their blog.
  • Nominate no more than 15 bloggers of your choice. When choosing a  blogger for ‘the Recognition Blogger Award’, look at the content of what the blogger posts, the way the blog looks, anything unusual and unique that makes you think this blog needs to be  shared and needs a bigger platform.
  • Link your nominees and let them know they have been nominated.
  • Reveal seven facts about yourself.

I would like to nominate the following for their sites are amazing and truly inspiring:

1. https://superjangames.wordpress.com
2. https://ricamaerosales.wordpress.com
3. https://rogershipp.wordpress.com
4. https://paintboxmum.wordpress.com
5. https://whatsinmyheadandheartnow.wordpress.com
6. http://yoursuccessinspirer.com
7. https://thecoolredhead.wordpress.com
8. https://xingfumama.wordpress.com
9. https://spilledthoughtsandcoffee.wordpress.com
10. http://sparksandsounds.com
By the way, here are seven facts about me:
  1. I’m proud to be a Filipino.
  2. My favorite fruit is Durian.
  3. I am not sporty.
  4. I love midnight snacking.
  5. I have a soft spot on kittens.
  6. My favorite movie is 50 First Dates.
  7. My greatest achievement is becoming a mother to an adorable baby girl.

Enjoy!

Time Machine

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Daily Prompt: World’s Best Widget

You’ve been granted magical engineering skills, but you can only use them to build one gadget or machine. What do you build?

If I become an inventor with super magical engineering skills, then I would built a…

You’ve guessed it right! Time Machine. Yes, it’s overrated and I think many of the respondents of today’s prompt share the same thought with me. I mean, who wouldn’t want to time travel? How amazing it would be to relive the good times then be able to see what the future holds. Particularly, I want to revisit my childhood days when everything was simple and uncomplicated. When I encounter problems, I sometimes imagine being in my grade school days not worrying about handful of bills to pay, making big decisions, and dealing with societal pressure.

My time machine comes in a size of a smartphone with touch-capacitive screen, which allows you to travel to a specific timeline at the tip of your finger. It enables the user to alter his troubled past, or do something to prevent the loss or sickness of a loved one. I know, this sounds too good to be true and defies the law of the universe and even more complicated moral issues. I’m also quite aware of the principle of ‘moving on’.  But isn’t it great to reunite with your family or friends for even just a short period of time and relive precious moments?

Now, how about a peek into the future? This sounds both exciting and disturbing because I’m sure it would be more complicated than one could ever imagine. There would be unimaginable things you do not want to see nor experience. Life is unfair, so just be prepared to face the future. But on a positive note, the good thing about having a time machine is for the person to be aware of what to avoid and what to take chances in order to devoid the unpleasant aspects of his future self. This, my friends, is a “play safe” life apparatus that everyone is looking for. Life would be far more simple I guess if we have our own “options” to hover over and click, buttons like forward and rewind, and edit and proceed.

When I grow up, I want to be..

Daily Prompt: Money for Nothing

If you’re like most of us, you need to earn money by working for a living. Describe your ultimate job. If you’re in your dream job, tell us all about it — what is it that you love? What fulfills you? If you’re not in your dream job, describe for us what your ultimate job would be.

I’m proud to be a working mother. I have an 8-5 pm job while I take care of my 2 year old daughter when I get home, and on weekends and holidays. It feels rewarding being able to balance career and motherhood duties.

I have been working as a Training Associate in one of the private training hospitals in the city. I’m blessed to be working in a hospital because we are given access to health services at a discount to free of charge. Consultation with a specialist is free. I didn’t spent a penny for my regular 9-month maternity check-ups, except of course for the transportation, laboratories (discounted rates), and supplements. I was lucky to be working as a training associate because I gained a lot of doctor friends. I delivered via cesarean section, and thankful to my Obstetrician, Anesthesiologist, and Pediatrician, for waiving their professional fees. I only paid for my discounted hospital fees and medicines.  Monthly immunization shots and well baby check-ups costs a lot, but we are able to save thousands of pesos through the special privileges the employees are entitled.  Healthcare services i.e. hospitalizations, laboratory procedures, and even out-patient services are indeed very expensive and constitute a certain percentage of a household’s budget.

My current job is not actually my sort of dream job, but I found fulfillment and satisfaction, benefits wise. Sometimes I feel bored, sometimes I’m revved up. The most important thing is, I feel happy  every time I successfully finish a project or an event. A pat in the back from my boss for a job well executed always makes me feel inspired. On the other hand, criticisms in a constructive manner remains a challenging battle to conquer and win, a constant reminder that there is always a lesson to learn in every mistakes committed.  As simple as it is, I love my current job, and I couldn’t ask for more.

What if someone will ask me today, the same question we were asked back in Grade School: What do you want to be when you grow up? Then I would say, I want to be an Event Stylist.

Yes, I want to run my own Events Planning and Management business. I love to organize parties, planning important life events like birthdays, wedding, and bridal and baby showers. I love to put on my creative heart and hands into a design. It maybe a sweets station styled with a specific theme, a fancy stage set up, an eye catching center piece, or an eccentric photo shoot styling. I want to play with flowers, paints, a piece of wood, and even with pieces of scratch papers to make every detail truly amazing. I discovered this interest when I planned and organized my baby’s first birthday. I did all the decorations, loot bags, invitations and all sorts of organizing stuff for my daughter’s momentous event. The whole process was exhausting yet fulfilling. This is the ideal job that I’m dreaming of, the kind of thing that could make me say at the end of the day, that it’s all worth it. I want to do the thing that I love, and the thing that I am more passionate of.

Let me share some snap shots of what I did for my baby’s birthday:

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Time is Life

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Daily Prompt: Thanks, Hindsight

How is the year shaping up for you so far? Have your predictions come true, or did you have to face a curve ball or two?

It has been a month and a half since we counted down for the new year. Sigh! Time flies really fast. How’s the first 45 days of 2016? Honestly, a rough one. The family had to deal with difficult situations at the beginning of the year, but thanks God, we remain strong. Money matters is a common household dilemma in a third world country like Philippines. As a working mom, with a working husband, we’re glad we still able to make ends meet and save for the rainy days. At some point in our lives, couples has to face relationship trials that push our limits, but thanks to our loved ones for their unfailing support and encouragements. We are now more passionate than ever. Yes, 2016 is a year of drama, at least for the first few weeks of it.

Now, how about a reassessment to our New Year’s resolutions. Ouch! This will be painful.

Save, save, save. Lose weight. Exercise. Skip the soda. Read a book a month. And the list continues. You know what? This is such a shameful, spot on, a-slap-on-my-face prompt, because it made me realize how lazy I am so far. The first 45 days has gone with the wind along with my endless list of resolutions. One of the issues I feel so guilty of is my physical health. God, I haven’t lose my  post holiday calories yet, and here I am gaining another pound. I promised to run every morning and eat less at dinner to no avail. I’m still a soda fanatic, sweets advocate, and a stress eater. I always use my poor little girl as an excuse to everything that I am not able to accomplish. I can’t eat less because I’m still breastfeeding. I cannot run early in the morning because my baby girl will cry if I left her in bed that early. I cannot finish a book because all my energies are all used up in the day, caring for my baby and making a living. I’m guilt-ridden now and feel so sorry.

I think it’s time to push the button.

This prompt is a wake up call. I still have 320 more days to make things better. To regain self-worth, to reach health goals, and to be more financially aware and prudent. Gone are the dramas and excuses. This time, I think I have to be more optimistic, focused, and dedicated. There are 320 more precious days to live with in 2016. I have to make the most of it in a time-managed manner, and I will waste not even a second of it in procrastination. Now I realized this Alan Lakein thoughts about time:

“Time=Life, Therefore, waste your time

and waste of your life, or master your time

and master your life.”

Let’s get it on!

 

Head over Heels

Daily Prompt: Quirk of Habit

Which quirky habit annoys you the most, and what quirky habit do you love — in yourself, or others.

“All of these years, I can’t believe you’re still rubbing your feet on those ugly scrap of mosquito net!”, exclaimed my Aunt in disbelief and amusement. I was watching TV when she caught me rubbing off my feet on a piece of nylon net which I own since grade school. Mom purposely cut a square portion from our mosquito net way back then, because I cannot fall asleep without it on my feet. Yeah, it’s weird, childish and annoying, but I can’t contain my happiness whenever I had it on my toes. It feels comfortably good.

I’m the only one in the family who loves this thing. I remembered when we were kids, my sisters would not want to share the bed with me because they really hated the nylon texture. One time, they would hide the mosquito net in one of the boxes in the stock room and I felt upset and cried the whole day. As much as they hated it, our relationship continues and grows deeper every bed time. I think I found my #forever in my mosquito net. 

True enough, we all have our own share of weirdness. While I love rubbing my feet on mosquito net to put me to sleep, some people on the other hand will gnash their teeth when they touch the nylon fabric. We are unique from each other, and no one can please everybody. As simple as that. For me, one that annoys me most is when someone plays with my hair. I have known some friends/acquaintances who love to touch and play somebody’s hair while having a conversation. Sometimes, in my annoyance, I would say, “Oops, hands off please before I punch your face”. I’m just being exaggerated. Seriously, I find it creepy when someone runs his/her fingers on my hair on casual chitchats, unless he/she’s my hairdresser.

Peace yow!